Dear Little Sister,
Thanks again for continuing to show up call after call, and opening up to me. Your trust means an enormous amount to me. I am happy you will be making a commitment to therapy as yet one more way to explore your mind, your feelings, your wellbeing. I can’t wait to hear how this goes. I know nothing radical will happen overnight. But every minute spent understanding yourself is pure gold.
As you keep walking your path (we are all walking our own paths), I will continue to explore with you, the balance of pushing you and giving you space. In other words, I am going to continue to challenge you, but it is from a place of love.
I am highly confident that you are already on your way to a place of deep equanimity. You have tools and support and a desire to change and a family who is there for you in a moment’s notice.
The biggest thing to accept and be at peace with, is that effort is essential. Initially that effort will feel a little uncomfortable. But that means it is working. Unexpectedly, the discomfort will feel like your best friend.
As Steve Jobs famously said about discomfort in his own life: “It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it.”
If you type “lean into discomfort” into google, you will slowly see that so many humans have discovered this in life. Below is an example I found very quickly this morning… (not sure you have a printer but this photo is a good one to have in your space as a reminder…. only saying this cause I print important things too).
So Sis, your homework for the moment is to make a promise to lean into the discomfort. And eventually it won’t feel uncomfortable anymore.
Chat more soon.